In my #SitWithSomone Series I am interviewing people of various ages, from all over and from all walks of life.
My goal is to have real conversations about what is going on in the lives of those around us. To share experiences, struggles, lessons learned, and what makes each of us unique.
This week my interview is with Scott Dunstan. He owns a promotional merchandise business The Dunstan Group. Think of any merchandise that you would be proud putting your logo on and that is what he helps with.
Here are some of the best insights into Scott’s mindset and his unique perspective on life.
What have some of the most pivotal moments been for your growth as a person?
The most pivotal moments in my personal growth came from the most challenging moments in life. Close family members passing, divorce, etc. These are the time-frames in life that made me understand what I’m made of and where I truly want to be in life. Hardships make me realize what’s important and for me, that is finding joy and happiness in every situation.
How do you deal with defeat or when things don’t work out the way you plan?
I work hard to focus on all the good around me. Life happens and we all deal with challenges day in, day out. It’s how we handle those challenges that set us apart from the herd. We stay positive, we stay focused on the big picture and we know that no onward and upward trend line goes straight up, there are dips and turns that in my mind only make us stronger.
How do you track whether you are living the life you want, or the one you think you are supposed to be living?
I’m not sure that I track it and I certainly don’t compare my life to others. I used to although somewhere along the line I realized how unproductive that is. If you’re real and passionate about what interests you, then it’s amazing to see how opportunities appear. As a younger man, I often wondered how some became uber successful and others didn’t so I started asking those who appeared to be lucky, how they did it. What I discovered was that they were willing to work hard, focus, take risks and live outside of their comfort zone. I discovered that the great really happens outside of your comfort zone. I have worked (and still working) to operate there. If I start feeling complacent, I’m going to work toward overcoming my next fear. This is what I focus on, not what everyone else is doing.
What’s Scott’s biggest fear when it comes to life?
Being 65 and not being able to choose what I want to do day in and day out. I’m working daily to avoid being in a situation where I lose my freedom of choice.
What is the guidance you would give to the 20 year old Scott?
Bottom line, it requires work. I’ve not been a super social being my entire life, but I’ve learned to adapt as I have to be successful. You’ll learn if you haven’t already, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know”. Relationships are extremely important. Powerful and meaningful relationships require trust, doing the right thing (always no matter what it costs), great communication and always following through on promises. It’s an art form that you already possess, you’ll just have to perfect it. Had I known what I know now when I was your age, I’d be so much further in my career. I’ve only learned these things by learning the hard way and doing it over time so I don’t have any regret. You will too. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Nothing GREAT happens in your comfort zone. Get outside of it and operate out there.
What would the 70 year old Scott tell you?
I hope he pats me on the back and say’s great work sir! You have a beautiful family, the best of friends and you added value to your community and beyond.
Scott is such an amazing example of what happens both personally and professionally when we throw caution to the wind.
When we stop worrying about what the world thinks about us and instead focus on who we want to be in the world.