Hey friends! It’s been a while, but I’m finally in a place where I can share where I’ve been and what I’ve been up to!
To get you caught up, I figured it would be easiest to give you the quick back story...
About six years ago I was married and found out from a stranger on Facebook that my wife at the time was having an affair. Devastated and broken by the news I literally got on the first flight out of Charlotte and went to New York City where my best friend Jason and my sister Kate lived. One of the following days I was having coffee with Jason and he pulled out a 2 dollar bill.
He gave it and told me that a friend had given it to him when he was going through a tough time and it was his turn to pass it on to me. That soon things were going to get better for me and I would get a chance to give it to someone else when I was ready.
I kept the 2 dollar bill in my wallet for almost 3 years, essentially forgetting about it until one day when I was leaving the grocery store.
Carrying my bags I noticed a girl sitting at one of the tables out front and it was clear she had been crying. I walked past her and went to my car, but after putting away my groceries I felt called to go back and see if she was ok.
I walked up to her and simply said, “Hey, I’m Court, do you mind if I sit down?” She told me her name and I said, “I couldn’t help but notice you seemed upset, and I just wanted to check to make sure you were ok” She told me how she had just lost her job and that she didn’t have any money to get home on the bus. Her sister was at work and wouldn’t be there for another 3-4 hours to pick her up, so she was stuck.
Somehow, in that moment, I remembered the 2 dollar bill.
It was still in my wallet years later.
I pulled it out and told her the story about it. How someone gave it to me during one of the hardest and lowest points in my life. Yet, here I was years later having met the love of my life in the time after the separation. In a place to share that support and love that Jason had given me years earlier with someone else.
Knowing she needed money I told her that she couldn’t spend the 2 dollar bill, but had to hold onto it. That one day, maybe a week from now, or years from now it was going to be her turn to pass it on to someone else. I pulled my wallet back out and gave her what I had, roughly $23 to hopefully help with the bus costs. I told her that she could do whatever she wanted with that money, but the 2 dollar bill was hers to give to someone else.
With tears streaming down her face she looked at me and simply said, “I can’t believe you saw me.”
“What do you mean?” I asked.
“You are a total stranger and you saw me sitting here upset and cared enough to stop and ask if I was ok. I can’t tell you what that means to me” she said as she held the 2 dollar bill with tears rolling down her cheeks.
As we stood up to leave, I said, “You need to know that there are people out here in the world, people you’ve never even met before that are cheering you on. That I'm just one of many people who want you to smile every day and live the life you could only dream of.”
Without thinking I found myself hugging a complete stranger. It was the type of hug that we tend to only share with really close friends that we haven’t seen in a while. Wiping away tears of my own I thanked her for letting me be a part of her day and for sharing with me everything she was going through.
Through the tears she said “you just don’t know what this means to me. The money is great, but you stopping to check on me is everything”
I found myself sitting in the parking lot in my car crying. Overwhelmed with the emotion of connecting with someone I’ve never seen before in my life. Sharing one of the most authentic and real moments you could ever ask for between two people.
Over the following days and weeks I found myself thinking…”I wonder how she is doing”, “I wonder if she has already given the 2 dollar bill to someone else". I wanted to say hi, to check back in with her, but we didn’t share phone numbers.
I realized that I really wanted more of those moments in my life. Moments of joy, of love and of true heartfelt connection.
This moment with a total stranger led me to start a new company called Connection Coin.
Simply put, it is a way for us to connect with friends, family and hopefully more people we don’t know. Using coins with unique pin numbers and phrases like “Spreading Positivity” or “Be Awesome to a Stranger” or simply “Thank You” you can give a coin to another person and then track the coin as they give it to someone else.
Creating a chain effect that every person who gives and receives the coins is connected. You can share messages, posts with others and connect through your profile to other social media platforms. You can see where on the map each coin is and track coins you receive, or even buy coins to give out yourself. On your profile you will be able to see how many connections around the world you helped create and see the stories of others who connect from coins you give.
I’ve spent the last 2+ years working on this platform and am beyond excited to share it with the world.
I am officially launching this week!!
I share this for two reasons.
I am going to focus my energy on this moving forward and will be stepping away from work with the book Blue Goat or this blog for now.
In connecting with you through Blue Goat, or in other ways I hope that you take the step to join me in connecting more with the people in your life.
Sharing a moment of encouragement, or simply taking the time to thank the person who always does so much for you. It’s not about just helping the person who seems like they had a bad day, but thanking the barista who made your coffee, or just chatting up the person next to you on the elevator instead of looking aimlessly at your phone.
Over the next year my goal is to give out a coin and connect with at least one new person each day.
My goal is to get as many people to join the community of people giving and receiving coins as possible!
Try taking the #1drinkchallenge to make it easy.
What is that? The #1drinkchallenge is skipping one drink per month. One cup of coffee, one beer, one smoothie, one glass of wine, etc and use that money to join the monthly subscription to get 8 new coins per month to challenge yourself to connect with at least 2 people per week!
I can’t wait to see what happens and the connections and lives we all change when we come together.